I think we all know that one person close to us who is always in victim mentality mode blaming everyone else, but themselves. Whether it be in relationships or anything pertaining to daily life. They love gossip, they love drama, and comparing; and especially being countless hours on the phone dramatizing about how bad they feel for themselves and trying to make you see it too and feel the same type of way. They love and accept everyone else defining who they are; yet they don’t realize that their true power lies when they stop focusing on everyone else and turn inwards. When they humble themselves before God and their own soul and ask, ‘What is wrong with me (not them)? What do I need to change or do differently to get different results? What do I need to work on?
Asking these types of questions takes a lot of courage but also a big change in perspective, which jumpstarts us to major quantum leaps and evolves us out of never-ending depleting cycles.
Life isn’t happening to you; it’s happening FOR YOU. See the blessing/lesson in everything that happens to you and focus on YOU. Once you train your mind to think this way, things will start to ‘magically’ transform and align for you, which will become your new normal. A paradigm shift.
Stop being a victim and instead focus on your growth and healing. Invest in yourself and evolve. You deserve it. Your energy is your biggest commodity. Protect it and choose your words wisely because they serve as spells and can either lower or raise your vibration. Shame and guilt serve as the lowest frequency emotions while unconditional love is the highest feeling emotion, which can transform and transmute your entire being. Become conscious and choose the positive and higher frequencies. Healing might look different for everyone. It could mean making an appointment with a healer, a psychologist, a shaman, a counselor, preacher; or just reading about healing and teaching yourself different modalities. Do not condemn your past or try to hide it because all those things made you who you are today. Accept your shadows. They happen for a reason and serve a higher purpose. No one is perfect, but that is the beauty of it all. Learn not to judge your life and love every part of it. You are beautiful and unique just as you are. In fact, it is in the things that we hide about ourselves or that we don’t think are special that in fact are the most beautiful and separate us from the rest. These eventually turn out to become the gifts God endowed us with rebirth. We are all meant to be different. Do not compare yourself. Be unique and learn to love it. Do not follow the crowd and do not put others on a pedestal. Stand out. You are the Star always. This might mean deleting your social media so you can see for yourself.
God does not make mistakes. Nothing or no one can define you. Please do not give your energy away like that. We are simply energy oscillating at different frequencies and everything outside of ourselves is social conditioning, programming, beliefs, labels, and stereotypes that we picked up along the way. Healing, soothing yourself, and being light and easy is the only way to go. Open your heart, breathe, and seek God. We all need help and healing. Whether you believe in Angels or guides, cry and ask for their help, for discernment, for guidance. Ask them to show you your highest path but be humble and truly honest with yourself and them. Crying and
humbling myself unto God and imploring for my Twin Flame whilst fasting and reading my Bible in a quiet space away from the world and technology and choosing kindness was the way for me. This led to a mystical experience and several spiritual awakenings including my Kundalini awakening. I dare you to try it. After all, what doesn’t kill you only makes you stronger.
Get rid of fear. As John Gotti says, ‘I never lie because I don’t fear anyone … you only lie when you’re afraid.’
So what? You made a ‘mistake.’ So what? You don’t like your new job. Leave. So what? You married the wrong person. Get a divorce. There is no need to complicate our lives or lie to ourselves or others to justify our decisions. There is always a solution. Focus on that. There is always a way and eventually, we all get through things no matter how daunting a situation seems to us if we really think about it. There is so much freedom and empowerment when we let go of fear and surrender it to God and trust. It is no one else’s business anyway.
Be easy on yourself; I cannot stress that enough. Give yourself a break and cut yourself some slack. Do not take life so seriously. Stop caring about what others will think or what will happen. 99.9% of those things never even happen anyway. Even if they did, so what? Did you die? There are no mistakes in this life, no perfection; no duality; no good or bad. Do not put that pressure on yourself or judgement; God surely doesn’t, and neither will that happen in your life review. There is no hell. Whatever falls away is meant to elevate you to the next level. The soul only cares about experiences, learning and raising your awareness. Be thankful for it all because it will only lead you to a higher path with new people, understandings and new experiences. I promise you that once you let go of that thing or person you know you should let go of you will find something better. The key is to believe and get excited and know that things are always working out for you and will get better if you think that way. It is all happening for a reason, a higher reason. BELIEVE and ask God instead, ‘Try me.’ Believe in that for you and your children. Focus on what works for you and keep doing that and speaking of those things. Nothing less. We are meant to be here to enjoy life; not be suffering or living in guilt or shame. We need to learn to be in a state of awe, wonder and amazement as much as possible. Your vibratory rate is everything. Focus on that and your emotions.
The universe is neutral and this is how we must see things and operate. The law of resonance does not care about duality. We are simply here to learn and glean new insights and perspectives and become the best versions of ourselves. God loves us no matter what. He wants us to experience it all and learn to love and revel in all the freedom he gives us on this beautiful earth and to see how every aspect of our life made us stronger and shaped us into who we are today. He wants us to empower ourselves, set boundaries and cherish our individuality. Above all, to love others and ourselves. So, love yourself like your dog does—unconditionally – after all, there is a reason why dog is God spelled backward. Animals and this whole world are sacred. You are Divine; your body is a temple. Treat everything as such and be conscious of it all. Do not judge your past, yourself or others. Do not compare. Do not gossip or speak badly of others. Instead, be easy, be light; be neutral and be playful about life, your pets, your children. Ultimately, we must learn that balance is always the answer and simplicity.
The more we love ourselves as we are and accept all of us; the more magnetic we will become and attract effortlessly all that is for our ultimate joy and truly US at our core. There is a reason why God allowed Covid and lockdowns to happen. People had to learn to be in their power. This meant becoming more conscious of things that had to be brought into the light learning how to do things on our own to see that it is possible and learning new things about ourselves. For some, it meant learning how to do their own nails, hair and makeup; becoming more aware and honest about their addictions; hobbies, home, finances; car, their partner and their own children. For others, it meant just being comfortable in their own skin: not using fake or toxic stuff like eyelash extensions or hair extensions; toxic nail polish and makeup or harsh hair dyes as it was for me; and giving up the urge to buy every beauty product that is promoted on social media or online. Additionally, it served for me to stop focusing on consumerism and instead realize that I needed to nourish my soul and my consciousness because earthly things would never fulfill me. More things, more attention, more fame, more prestige, more money; greed and more pleasure only serve the ego and hedonistic urges and only lead you to a Luciferic and empty path. The soul can never be satisfied that way.
Ultimately, it meant taking down all of that and getting rid of the façade and mask of myself that I was using to garner validation, attention and instant gratification. Focusing on things outside of myself and materialism was exhausting. Not to mention, costly and that did not sit well with my Taurus self. The world does not need to incur any more debt, follow more fashion trends or look outside of themselves for happiness. We need to focus on ourselves, not influencers or others. This meant focusing more on my healing, soothing my inner child and working on my subconscious programming, beliefs and emotions and becoming aware of it all. Working on myself and loving ME, the real me; not the girl that all men love; and acting on and living from what made ME happy. It meant focusing on the imbalances of the divine masculine and feminine collective and becoming aware of why and how they were happening and in turn, balancing them out in myself. That is the key for humanity at the moment and becoming conscious of everything, especially ourselves. ‘Know Thyself’ as Socrates states through conscious awareness.
Nothing made me happier than focusing on what truly makes my soul soar and my heart sing. Seeing what no longer worked for me and what did work and loving this new conscious phase in my life, led me to leave my job in fashion because it didn’t ignite my soul. It only led to buying more things and never being satisfied; to meeting more empty and superficial people; people that loved cheap thrills; loved partying, had transactional relationships; or an IG worthy jet-setting life; hypocritical, confused and evil people that turned to substances for a fast and temporary relief for their soul. In turn, this made me think back to Jesus and his time and how people lived their lives; that they didn’t really need a lot; especially all this stuff the media pushes us to need. It made me think of the purity of children and how much they love themselves and others no matter what they’re wearing or what they look like in any given moment. The more I felt this way and lived like that, purely and truly, the more I was becoming aware I was good at so many things I told myself I couldn’t do; or things that I loved and had been ignoring from my childhood.
I learned so many new things about myself. It was like I was uncovering all these different layers of myself, or facets of the diamond that I am, which I had been hiding and was falling in love with at every turn. The things I saw as weaknesses turned out to be my biggest strengths. I learned that gardening was so soothing and therapeutic and my favorite hobby alongside building stuff. I created my own fairy garden and herb garden. Bob the builder definitely had competition. I learned to invest and found out I was very good at playing options in the stock market. I became very good at event planning and even curating my own healthy and conscious menus. I created my own Zen spa/gym sanctuary in my home from scratch and learned that I am a very good interior decorator. I nurtured several feathered babies, including abandoned baby seagulls; adopted a puppy and learned the value of farm to table food; supporting small businesses for the women and families and their empowering stories rather than big name and corrupt brands. I realized I just needed patience and to believe in myself and focus on the end result. Anything can be accomplished with presence, will, patience, focus and belief in yourself. Plus, our soul will remember these things and will give us guidance through the Akashic records; we just need to trust it; learn to tune into it and believe in ourselves. Our intention, belief in self and focus on the now are everything.
The more I started raising my vibration, the more these chemicals were affecting my state of being, my skin and body. I was becoming allergic to many things for my highest good. I was ascending and purifying; and it taught me to truly become conscious of everything I do, think and say, as well as what I put on or into my body. I truly learned to listen to my body. I was being guided on what to eat, where to go and what to do all along. I simply needed to learn to listen and hush out all the chatter from the past and future. Glenda in the Wizard of Oz was right … the power was in me all along! Maybe that’s why the Divine guided me to adopt my Morkie, Toto too.
I focused on the present moment and opted for all things vegan, natural, authentic and organic everywhere in my life. I created my own non-toxic facials and cleaned everything out of my bathroom, medicine cabinets, pantries and my shower. I even included not following trends in Hollywood or social media and just creating my own conscious style and fashion that made me stand out in my own, unique and creative way. For me that meant an elegant yet sexy lady that embodies the Proverbs 31 woman: a woman of style and grace. If someone didn’t like it or appreciate it; that was their problem, not mine. It also made me reflect on all the toxins that are in nail polish and makeup. It made me see that I was really good at doing my own hair, makeup and nails if I truly set my mind to it and did not need anyone or anything outside of myself. I truly learned what worked for me and made me happy and different. I did not let anyone interfere with that; fiercely, very fiercely. I reassessed everything in my life. I put up strict boundaries and felt invincible with the backing of the Holy Spirit and Divine realms. I feared no one or thing. I am always guided and protected. We all are. We are all interconnected with ALL through this energetic web of life. Although you cannot see it (now); learn to feel it whether it’s being alone in nature, in the shower, or in meditation. `
When I tried to go back into a nail salon or would try to put nail polish on my toes, all I could smell were the harsh toxins that made my eyes water and truly depleted my spirit and energy. I could sense the uncleanliness of these places and the carelessness of some workers as well and knew I could do it better if I believed that. I could also see with my inner eye that these people didn’t really care about their jobs, they were simply doing it out of necessity and with no passion; for the sake of money. They had a lack of mindset. There was no passion, authenticity, Sovereignty or depth within their beings.
I had never been more grateful that Covid happened to learn how to live a super conscious lifestyle. To learn to heal through Christ; and heal my mind, body, and emotions and achieve my highest timeline. Nothing is more beautiful or empowering than that.
My life became more peaceful and purer by removing anything or anyone artificial, toxic or fake in my life. Learning to say no and not being a people pleaser was major for me. What happened when I chose myself and said no to ‘friends?’ Nothing. The ones that truly mattered stayed in my life and ‘got me.’ I simply stopped doing things for status, prestige or to appease my parents. I was less of this world and more of God’s spiritual world. I owned my life and myself and took full responsibility for everything. I stopped complaining and became conscious of all my life lessons and transcended my karma. I forgave everyone. I focused only on love. I started my purification and ascension process and learned how to master myself, my urges, my lower impulses, my emotions, desires and beliefs. I chose to sacrifice my ego self and become of service to others and God. After all, giving does bring more joy than receiving. I opted to never give my power away to anyone or anything. Nothing gave my soul, mind, and body more freedom, ease, or serenity than that. Be patient with yourself; focus on the present and take small steps. It is a never-ending process, but oh so fulfilling and rewarding. The only way to transcend and transmute anything is through LOVE: unconditional love. The world can only see and embody peace, harmony and unity consciousness this way.
Our happiness is an inside job. Do not put so much pressure on someone else, a situation or an event to cause that for you. It made me think back to how I used to be and live when I was little and focused on the little things that really made me happy. I decided to live like that little girl and soothed and nurtured my inner child. Rather than aspiring to be ‘Bad’ like the typical and toxic Instagram girl or OnlyFans girl for validation or instant gratification; I knew and lived like the good girl and woman of God I AM who is very sweet, modest, pure, and kind. I also chose to go back to dance classes again; to bake Christmas cookies in July, to play with and pet any doggy that came my way or critter; to act like a baby princess; watch princess movies; color, play the piano, and to not need approval or validation from anyone; to dress like a pretty and preppy angelic little girl; to be outside more; laugh more; do cute and little things for my mom, and just love A LOT – everything and anything especially the small and priceless things. Those things truly were and ARE me still that I had sadly been ignoring; yet made me so happy. So, I urge you to think back to the things that inspired and delighted you when you were little. Do that and live from your passions and heart. This might mean starting a journal to become aware of it all. You deserve it. Have purpose and conviction. That is what our soul lives for.
‘Unless you change and become like little children, you will never enter the kingdom of heaven. Therefore, whoever humbles himself like this child is the greatest in the kingdom of heaven’ (Matthew 18:2—5).
Live grandly and like the regal child of God that we all are. Know and believe what you deserve. Make life on this earth the best because that is what God intended. To live free, wildly, happily as YOU. It is no one else’s business, especially on social media. Go into peace, go off grid, be alone; grow your own fruits and vegetables. Do what ignites your soul; listen to it because that is the fire of the Holy Spirit speaking to you. Become the best version of yourself and ask your Angels and guides to help you reach your highest timeline and embody that Man or Woman you see in your dreams. Listen for that guidance via your intuition and inspiration and let the magic unfold.
In conclusion, be honest, have integrity for your soul and your heart. Say what you mean no matter what and learn to love that rebel, wild and fierce side of yourself, whilst embodying courtesy, gentleness, politeness and kindness in all that you do. Compassion, love, simplicity, meekness, humbleness and empathy are key. Learn to heal yourself through the grace and mercy of God. Be unapologetic, authentic and the person you admire and sooner than later, you will be embodying that self, your true authentic Self and soul. Have boundaries, have self-respect, self-control and maintain your vision, standards and principles. It is all only about you; no one else. But it will only work if you are deeply honest with yourself about your needs, wants, desires and who you truly are deep down. Own it and do not stray from it. Teach people how to love you. Your life will become magical and peaceful. Isn’t that the definition of success? I dare you to say what you really mean and do what you really feel; be the most raw and un-fake version of yourself and see who or what you attract and who or what falls away for your greatest good. Get excited! The Bruno Mars song can definitely start playing now “Just the way you are.”
“Maybe the journey isn’t so much about becoming anything. Maybe it’s about unbecoming everything that isn’t really you, so that you can be who you were meant to be in the first place.”
PS: please let me know what happens for those of you that decide to have the courage and own it. After all, that is what this new earth is about. Shouldn’t we get started?
With Infinite love, gratitude, prosperity and blessings,
Yocelyn xx
